Cornish Maine Boudoir Studio // What Your Boudoir Photographer Wants You to Know (But Doesn't Say It Enough)

Look, I’m just going to say it—boudoir photography is so much more than just showing up in lingerie and hoping for the best. You’re stepping into something that’s equal parts empowering, intimate, and yes, a little nerve-wracking. And as your boudoir photographer, I’ve seen it all—the nerves, the excitement, the “I have no idea what I’m doing” moments, and the incredible confidence that comes when you realize, damn, I look good.

But there are some things I don’t always say out loud—until now.

You Do NOT Need to Lose Weight for This

If I had a dollar for every time someone said, “I just want to lose 10 pounds before I book,” I’d own a beachfront villa by now. Boudoir is not about achieving some ‘perfect’ body. It’s about celebrating the one you have—curves, stretch marks, scars, and all. Trust me, I know how to pose, light, and direct you so you look like your absolute best self. No crash diets required.

The First 10 Minutes Will Feel Awkward—That’s Normal

Unless you moonlight as a lingerie model, posing half-dressed in front of a camera is not something you do every day. So yes, the first few shots might feel weird. You’ll probably think, '“What do I do with my hands? Is my face okay? Wait, do I even know how to breathe properly?”

Here’s the thing: it gets easier. By the time we’re halfway through, you’ll be flipping your hair, arching your back, and smirking like you own the damn place.

You Don’t Need to Know How to Pose (That’s My Job)

The number one worry I hear: “I have no idea how to pose.” Good. That means you’re not coming in with stiff, forced Instagram-model stances. I’ll guide you through everything—where to put your hands, how to tilt your chin, when to breathe (yes, sometimes we forget that in the moment). You just have to show up and trust the process.

Lingerie Is Optional—Confidence Is Not

Sure, lace and straps are great, but if you feel hottest in an oversized sweater or nothing but a sheet, let’s do that. The best boudoir images happen when you’re comfortable and feeling yourself. Whether that’s in a barely-there set or a leather jacket, it’s about what makes you feel amazing.

Professional Hair & Makeup? Game Changer.

Can you do your own makeup? Sure. But trust me when I say having a pro on set makes a huge difference. They know how to create a look that enhances your features while staying true to your personal style. Plus, it’s one less thing for you to stress about on the day of your shoot.

Retouching Isn’t About Changing You—It’s About Enhancing What’s Already There

I’m not here to morph you into someone else. My editing process is about enhancing, not erasing. That means fixing lighting, removing distractions, and making sure you look like the best version of yourself—not an over-airbrushed magazine cover.

The Reveal Session Will Probably Make You Cry (In a Good Way)

Seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes—especially in a way that’s bold, powerful, and undeniably beautiful—is emotional. I’ve had clients laugh, cry, sit in silence, or say, “Holy shit, is that really me?” Yes, it is. And yes, you deserve to see yourself this way.

This Experience Is for YOU, First and Foremost

A lot of people book boudoir as a gift for a partner, which is great. But let’s be real—this is for you. You’re the one stepping out of your comfort zone. You’re the one reclaiming your confidence. And you’re the one who will look back at these photos years from now and think, “Hell yes. That’s me.”

Final Thoughts

If you’ve been on the fence about booking a boudoir session, consider this your sign. You don’t need to change, you don’t need to have experience, and you don’t need permission. All you need is to show up, trust the process, and let yourself be seen the way you deserve to be.

Ready to take the plunge? Let’s do this.